Frequently Asked Questions
Here is a collection of questions that many people have commonly asked, especially when they are new to PAA.
How do I get a sponsor?
The best way to get a sponsor is to attend meetings and find like-minded members who share and are active in the community. As you build connections and get to know other members of our fellowship natural connections will begin to grow. From there, it is recommended that you simply ask someone whom you feel would make a good sponsor. Not everyone is in the place where they can take on a sponsee though, and they may say no. Do not get discouraged by this though. This simply means that the right sponsor for you has not been found, but eventually you will find this person.
Also, if you have joined the PAA Discord server, you can search for members with the Open to Sponsor role, by using the #sponsorship to find sponsors. You can introduce yourself and use the tag @ Open to sponsor when doing so, so available sponsors will be alerted.
What should I do until I find a sponsor?
There are numerous options available to you as a newcomer to the program. Just because you have not yet found a sponsor (yet) here are some options available to you:
• Find an Accountability Partner
• Work the steps on your own
• Attend Meetings
• Leverage outreach channels on WhatsApp and Discord
What is an accountability partner?
An accountability partners is typically someone who helps another member stay honest and responsible in their efforts to avoid pornography and related compulsive behaviors.
Some key characteristics of an accountability partner include:
• Mutual Support: Both individuals often check in regularly (daily or weekly) to share progress, challenges, triggers, and victories.
• Not a Sponsor: While a sponsor offers more structured guidance through the 12 Steps, an accountability partner is more of an equal, walking alongside rather than leading.
• Honesty and Transparency: The relationship is built on open, honest communication—especially about slips, urges, or risky behaviors.
• Boundaries and Respect: Healthy accountability involves encouragement, not control. It’s not about policing but about mutual commitment to recovery.